baby steps on life

"After a while you learn the difference, the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. And learn that to love doesn’t mean to be supported by others, and company does not always mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses are not contracts and that presents are not promises. And you begin to accept your defeats with the head up and your eyes ahead, with the grace of an adult and not the grief of a child.

And you learn to build all your roads on today, because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans and the future have a way of falling into the void. After a while you learn that the sunshine burns if you get exposed for long. And you learn that no matter how much you care, some people just don’t care...

And accept that no matter how good a person is, she is going to hurt you every once in a while and you need to forgive her for that. You learn that talking can relieve emotional pain. You discover that it takes years to build trust and only seconds to destroy it, and you can do things in an instant, from which you regret for the rest of his life. You learn that true friendships continue to grow even at long distances. What matters is not what you have in life, but who you have in life. And that good friends are the family that we were allowed to choose.

You learn that you don’t have to change friends if you understand that friends change. Your best friend and you can do anything, or nothing, and spend quality time together.

You discover that the people you care most in life are taken from you very quickly. Therefore, we must always leave loved ones with loving words - may be the last time we see them.

You learn that the circumstances and environments have influence on us, but we are responsible for ourselves. You begin to learn that you should not compare yourself with others, but with the best you can be. You discover that it takes a long time to become the

person who wants to be , and that time is short . You learn that it doesn’t matter where you came now, but where you are going . But if you don’t  know where you're going , anywhere will do.

You learn that either you control your acts or they will control you, and that being flexible does not mean being weak or not having personality because no matter how delicate and fragile the situation is, there are always two sides.

You learn that heroes are people who did what was necessary to be done, facing the consequences. You learn that patience requires practice. You discover that sometimes the person you are waiting to kick you when you fall, is one of the few that will help you raise. You learn that maturity has more to do with the types of experiences you had and what you learned from them, than of how many birthdays you celebrated.

You learn that there are more of your parents in you than you supposed. You learn that you should never tell a child that dreams are nonsense, few things are so humiliating and would be a tragedy if she believed it. You learn that when you're angry, you’ve the right to be so, but that does not give you the right to be cruel to others.

You discover that just because someone does not love you the way you'd like to be loved, does not mean that someone doesn’t love you with everything she can, because there are people who love us , but just do not know how to show it or live it .

You learn that it is not always enough to be forgiven by someone, sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

You learn that with the same harshness you judge someone, you shall be, at some point, doomed. You learn that no matter how many pieces your heart was broken, the world does not stop for you to fix it. You learn that time is not something you can turn back.

So plant your garden and decorate your soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you can actually support ... you’re really strong, and you can go a lot farther than you think you can. And that life really has value and that you have value in life!"